A Better Way to Divorce

Sometimes staying married is not possible. At the Center for Marital and Family Transition, we know that how a couple gets divorced can drastically effect the nature of their future relationship as co-parents.

When you are considering separation and divorce, one or both of you may be hurt, angry, or scared. You may feel that the only way to feel better is to expose your soon-to-be ex spouse to a judge in court. You may wish to prove yourself right, receive compensation for your suffering, or simply inflict pain as you feel has been done to you. But, rarely does anyone leave the court process feeling better, and no one ever feels like he or she has “won” without sacrifice.

Litigation will take your damaged relationship and add the additional financial/emotional strain of depositions, court hearings, and judicial rulings. If you get in front of the judge, he/she will make the decisions on the parenting plan, child support, alimony and the distribution of assets that will be difficult and expensive to change in the future, even if both of you are unhappy. The reality is that going to trial is costly, emotionally and financially.

When divorce is inevitable, Collaborative divorce and co-mediation allow you avoid litigation and be in control of the divorce process. These two alternatives to litigation allow for a marital settlement agreement to be created in a more cooperative and less conflictual environment.